Relationships are complex. Each partner brings its own ‘baggage’ and that starts a dance of two individuals with a common goal -the relationship to thrive, but moving with different melodies. In that dance, the relationship becomes the third party. Let alone when children come!
Oftentimes, couples seek help when it’s too late. The trash under the rug has grown and stinks so much that no one can stand it anymore. What a shame, isn’t it? The truth is that, the earlier you start bringing awareness and proactively understanding yourself and your partner in the partnership, the more chances you have of building a solid foundation for an epic life together. A dance with only one melody.
If your relationship is still young, don’t wait until the castle starts to crumble. There are early signs that if you look closely, you’ll notice that they are the seeds for unhealthy relationship dynamics. Likewise, there might be positive aspects that could strengthen the bonds and serve as opportunities for growth.
Unfortunately, we’re not taught in school how to do relationships. Our parents didn’t know better and so we’re launched into the world with very little knowledge of how to relate to others in ways that fulfill our visceral needs of love and belongingness.
As a consequence, you might experience overwhelming challenges when:
The list can continue but, if any of the above-mentioned situations ring a bell for you, chances are that you will benefit from a supportive, neutral outsider who can hold a safe space for you and your partner to reconnect and better understand one another.
For several years I’ve been learning about myself and my relationships through the lenses of psychotherapy, psychology, coaching and couples counseling. In that journey, I’ve realized that who we are in relationships and how we act is determined by a number of elements that usually pass inadvertently.
That’s why when coaching couples, I strive to shed light on the shadows that might be preventing the relationship to thrive. Although a clarity booster session is possible, the best move is a 3 to 6 months deep dive into your relationship dynamics and individualities with a sole objective: learn how to live a fulfilled, vibrant and harmonious life together.